What is body shaming? it’s the act of negatively judging someone based on their physical appearance.
Typically,people are body shamed when they appear overweight or underweight or don’t fit the society’s view of thin and beautiful.
I have had to deal with body-shaming seeing as am a plus-size lady. I was bullied in my secondary school days, not physically though, emotionally..thank God I wasn’t suicidal neither did I result to cutting..my bully which was my senior wouldn’t stop harassing me, calling me names, his favorite was elephant.he saw to it that he criticized me whenever he gets d chance to.I tried my best to avoid him but somehow, he was always there, mocking me and saying things like “elephant have you eaten today, am sure you ate the whole house before coming to school..if he had made comments like that privately,I probably wouldn’t have minded but he prefers embarrassing me in public,in the presence of my fellow classmates…I get embarrassed…I get hurt, I shed tears but who could I tell, no one..I couldn’t tell my parents for fear of it getting worse{and by it, I mean d bullying coz obviously my parents would go to the school to make a report.so I pretended everything was dandy..back then, I’d stand in front of my mirror and ask myself why am so ugly, why am so fat, why can’t I be slim and beautiful like this person..
I don’t get why some people feel the need to belittle others just to make themselves feel good.
Research has shown and it’s a known fact that Body shaming causes depression,eating disorder,low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts, cutting,mental problems and lots more.
So let’s say NO to body shaming, let’s say NO to bullying, let’s say NO to criticism..the Holy Book even said it; love your neighbor as yourself. each and every one of us is created beautifully and wonderfully.
As a plus-size lady, and you’re not happy with the way you are, then take a step; take a step because it’s your choice, because you want to, not because society wants it. and if you’re happy with the way you’re, flaunt your sexiness, walk with confidence.
To all ladies out there who are victims of body shaming;lift your head up baby girl,do not let others belittle you,know that you are beautiful.you need to accept who you are and what you have,beauty is the goal in life that is unobtainable if you don’t love yourself..fall in love with every bit of you.looking for love?it will come.dont let those insecurities tell you otherwise.the right man will come,he’s going to love how you smile,how your tummy folds when you laugh,he’s going to love your thick thighs.hes going to love you just the way you are..
I’m not going to sacrifice my mental health to have the perfect body.
Love yourself.
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